"Don't ask where I'm from, ask me where I am a local."
In this video, Taiye Selasi explains the difference between the question "where are you from?" and the question "where are you local?". She starts by telling the audience that every time she was introduced before a talk, introducers told she was from Nigeria, USA and Ghana, but in reality, she doesn't feel like it. That's when she started to think about where she was from. Taiye provides the audience with a three-step test, what she called the three R's, to make people find out where they are. the first R is for rituals, that is the daily things you do, those rituals may differ from the rituals of your country or even your neighbourhood. The second R is for relationships, those who shape your days and those who shape your weekly emotional experience. The last R is for restrictions, and this refers to where you can live or if you are restricted from feeling fully at home where you live. She says "We're local where we carry out our rituals and relationships, but how we experience our locality depends in part on our restrictions."
Taiye explains that the difference between "where are you from?" and "where are you local?" isn't the specificity of the answer but it is the intention of the question. When you asked where are you from, you are referring to the country, and countries represent power, less or more power. An example that she mentions is that maybe a Mexican gardener in Los Angeles and a Nepali housekeeper in Delhi have more in common in terms of rituals and restrictions than nationality implies.
I liked this talk. It made me think of books, let me explain to you why. When I was listening to Taiye talk about rituals and relationships, I couldn't help but remember those books I read (and loved) and the rituals I shared with the characters, even though the stories were set in another part of the world completely different from my country. I think that the rituals you shared are what make you love a book because you can understand or empathise with the situations. Also, this talk makes me wonder where I'm local, I guess I'm still finding it out.